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Even if He Doesn’t Hit You, Emotional Abuse Is Just as Bad
My boyfriend’s best friend died last month, and my boyfriend has been threatening me like s—t ever since. I know he’s going through hard times and he’s in pain, but it’s getting really humiliating for me in front of our son and friends. I would have moved ages ago if my son’s safety was endangered,…
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Fathers Need to Learn That Beating Daughters Won’t Make Them Good Girls
Just in time for April, which is National Child Abuse Prevention Month, there’s a new clip making the viral rounds of an angry black dad wailing on his child with a belt. In a video partially titled “Father Whoops on His 13-Year-Old Daughter Dressed Like Beyoncé After Missing for 3 Days” a scantily clad black girl…
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Your Threats to Leave Won’t Stop Your Husband’s Infidelities
My husband has cheated on me a couple of times. I told him if anything happens ever again, I’m going to divorce him. My heart is broken, and I have nightmares about this chick. I don’t know how to trust him. I love him and want it to work, but I don’t know how this…
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Why All the Anger Over a Model’s Breast-Feeding Photo?
When breasts are propped high in Victoria’s Secret ads or the pages of King magazine, or an A-list star wears a dress cut to her navel or maybe a R-related movie shows women flashing them freely, few people seem to have a problem. Maybe some advocacy groups for teenage girls and their self-esteem, maybe some…
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An Ex Can’t Be a ‘Friend’ If He’s Trying to Get Back With You
My ex and I remained friends after our breakup. He has a girlfriend now, but he’s constantly telling me he wants to be with me and the only reason he’s with her is because we’re not together. I think he told me he’s thinking about marrying her to get a reaction from me. How do…
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Lupita Nyong’o and What It Means to Be Black
When I posted a picture on my Instagram of newly minted Academy Award winner Lupita Nyong’o giving her acceptance speech at Sunday night’s awards ceremony, I didn’t know or even suspect that there was any question about whether she was black. The photo was of a beaming Nyong’o holding up her award in triumph. Her…
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Yes, You Should Give the White Guy a Chance
“When guys from other races approach me or seem to express interest, I feel like I am their cultural project and quickly shut it down. They don’t say anything offensive, but I wonder why they want a ‘sistah’ when they have not ventured over to this side before—or seem to have not to. Is this…
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Everyone Is Asking the Wrong Questions About the Ray Rice Video
“PSA of the day … If you spit in a man’s face, you deserve to get knocked out. Man, woman or child. Period!” This was a friend’s Facebook status on the day the news broke that Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice and his fiancee, Janay Palmer, had both been charged with simple assault after…
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Should I Be Cool If He Wants a Side Chick After We’re Married?
“My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage. He says he wants to marry me but doesn’t want to be limited to having sex with one woman forever. He asked me if I would consider parameters for him to mess around, like on his birthday or other special occasions. He doesn’t want me to do…
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Jordan Davis: A Dream Denied
Jordan Davis would have celebrated his 19th birthday on Sunday. Instead the 17-year-old was killed by Michael Dunn at a Florida gas station in 2012 when Jordan and his friends refused to turn down their loud music. On Saturday night, Dunn was found guilty of three counts of second-degree attempted murder but was not convicted…
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