(The Root) ā Aisha Tyler is always on the grind. The comedian and TV star is in a constant state of motion: She can be seen Monday to Friday as a co-host of CBSā The Talk, a show similar in vibe to The View; sheās the voice of sassy secret agent Lana Kane in the animated series Archer on FX; sheās the creator and host of the popular weekly podcast Girl on Guy, where she interviews (mostly) men about the things they love; and sheās a stand-up comedian who regularly goes on the road.
Next stop: South by Southwest, or SXSW, in Austin, Texas, in March. Sheās even found time to write her second book (due out in July), called Self-Inflicted Wounds: Heartwarming Tales of Epic Humiliation, named after the segment on her podcast where she ask guests to reveal their most personal epic fail. The book, though, is a collection of her own past failures, beginning at age 5.
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One could never imagine that the popular and outspoken Tyler, 42, was once a bookish, nerdy kid who didnāt have the cool clothes or the cool friends, and who was obsessed with video games and science fiction. The Dartmouth alumna now sees those early difficult days as a formative time in her life. And today all the things that made her seem uncool then have suddenly made her the reigning queen of the black nerds, or āblerds,ā as theyāre called these days.
She still loves and plays video games. (Anyone who questions her gamer bona fides can go read her manifesto that went viral last year after some trolls tried to call her out for hosting a video-game event at E3, the annual gadgets-and-games expo that Tyler says she attends every year.) Comic book writers and other nerd types, black or otherwise, have all been regular guests on her podcast.
Just back from Paris, where she was filming an episode of a new food-and-travel show produced by Anthony Bourdain for the upcoming Esquire Network, Tyler took a moment from her crazy schedule to talk to The Root about the rise of blerds, being bullied in school and why pursuing failure is a good thing.
The Root: Why do you think blerds have recently become the cool thing?
Aisha Tyler: Weāve been around forever, havenāt we? I donāt know that weāve become cooler, but I think [that with] the rise of nerd culture and the celebration of other[ness] and the outsider, as a result itās like a high tide lifting all boats.
Itās only recently become cool to be a nerd in popular culture. I donāt think itās ever been OK to be a nerd in black culture. There is this specific monolithic identity thatās presented as what is authentically black and what isnāt. I think because traditionally, black people have been in a [defensive] posture, thereās been this desire to really enforce that monolithic idea that we all feel the same way politically and listen to the same music and eat the same food.
Iāve heard, in the past, black people say things like āblack people donāt swim,ā āblack people donāt eat bagels,ā āblack people donāt listen to rock music.ā Thatās not other cultures putting those stereotypes on us; thatās us doing that to ourselves ā specifically saying, āThatās black, thatās not black.ā So I think whatās great about the rise of nerd culture generally is that it really celebrates individuality.
TR: I understand what youāre saying, but it does seem as though recently blerds have been able to come out in a much bigger way.
AT: I think the celebration of nerd culture has empowered nerds of every [culture]. We also have popular blerds. He doesnāt really seem like an outsider now, but Kanye West and his album College Dropout [were] really very, very different from hip-hop at the time. Now we have people like Frank Ocean. I think the last barrier in hip-hop is queer culture, and I think itās just about individualism and [how] the idea of that individualism expresses itself in every culture, not just white culture.
TR: Youāve talked about being an outsider and being bullied in school. What used to happen to you?
AT: One of the things I remember the most ā this is not a joke, this happened; it was like an after-school special ā kids literally joined hands and danced around me in a circle. This is pre-Facebook. Iām sure thereās a Facebook equivalent to dancing around somebody in a circle [and] taunting them, but that actually happened to me, literally, in the real world.
TR: If you could go back in time and talk to your younger, nerdier self, what would you say?
AT: āIt gets betterā is absolutely what I would tell her. And I also would tell her to stick to her guns. I donāt look back and wish that I was a different kid, because I feel like odd kids end up trusting their own instincts. They donāt ever have to check their decisions against the mob because the mob doesnāt care what they do.
TR: So your new book is all about self-inflicted wounds. Care to share one of your stories?
AT: No, youāll have to buy the book. But I will tell you philosophically, the book is about the pursuit of failure. Hopefully itās just a funny book, but itās also about the pursuit of failure as a means to success. Iāve heard so many people say, āI didnāt try that because I was afraid I was going to fail.ā
I think to really do something interesting, you have to do something knowing not just that you might fail but in all likelihood you will fail. And fear of failure should not ever inhibit somebody from pursuing something that they want. And in fact, itās better to stipulate that āthis is going to go terribly and I may get injured, but Iām going to do it anyway,ā because thatās the only way you grow.
Genetta M. Adams is a contributing editor of The Root. Follow her on Twitter.
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