âWe ought to be strong enough to let people be free to live, no? Do you think you have the right or I have the right to tell anybody else who he or she should marry? Who he or she should love? That will weaken the fiber of the nation faster than anything else.â â James Baldwin, at the University of California, Berkeley, April 26, 1974
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Much to the chagrin of some nosy people, David Johns doesnât typically offer up an answer to the ever-probing question of, âWhen did you know?â
âI would be OK with the idea of âcoming outâ if it meant that everyone was expected to âcome out.â But thatâs not how it works in practice. Iâve never seen a heterosexual person have to tell their âcoming outâ story,â said Johns, the executive director of the National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC). âItâs the way that cis, heterosexual people ask questions about queer identities where they are expecting an answer and are incapable of providing one that reminded me that this was a really important concept,â he said.
The concept Johns is referring to is âinviting in,â which some argue disrupts the power imbalance held by those who demand others âcome out.â The Root first reported on why some Black LGBTQIA+ folks are done âcoming outâ last January.ï»ż
Instead of being expected to âcome out,â LGBTQIA+ and same-gender loving (SGL) community members might âinvite inââ those in their life, who have put in the work to show that they are compassionate, competent, trustworthy and understanding, by sharing parts of themselves that are important. All of this ultimately led to the idea for and creation of this yearâs first-ever âInviting In Day,â which aims to spread awareness around the concept of âinviting in.â
August 2 is also the birthday of trailblazing writer and civil rights activist James Baldwin. The late American novelist unapologetically invited others into his full, multifaceted life as a Black gay man.
In collaboration with the NBJC, Johns engaged in a three-part conversation hosted by The Root with Amber Whittington (known as AmbersCloset), Andrew Gillum, and Sage Dolan-Sandrino about the problem with âcoming out,â the promise of âinviting in,â and the diversity that has always existed within the Black community.
On this âInviting In Day,â we invite you to trouble your current understanding of âcoming outâ and learn more about âinviting inâ by watching the video above and learning more on your own about the lived experiences of LGBTQ and SGL people.
Additional reporting by Emily Leugers.
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